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New Beginnings and Mottoes


In a previous post, I mentioned that I resolved to resolve nothing. My New Years Resolution was to have no resolution. At a glance, this sounds both lazy and pessimistic, however, I’m finding that I’ve already started my year off spectacularly.

Without saying “This year I plan to do better,” or any variation of that, I made the executive decision to just do better. Right now. It’s not a New Year’s Resolution; it’s a resolution in the new year. Totally different.

I’m not saying “By the end of 2015 I will have accomplished such and such,” instead I am saying “Right now, I will change. I can change.”

I wanted to do something different, so I started a new business (more on this later). Boom. Check that off.

I wanted to lose weight, so I started eating better and working out, and I’ve already lost five pounds. Boom.

I wanted to meet new people and step outside my comfort zone, so I joined a group, met a few girls, and went to a little get together. It was lovely. I walked into a house where I knew absolutely no one, and left feeling like I’d met some life long friends. Boom. Done.

It’s hard. It’s challenging. And it’s downright uncomfortable sometimes. But if you don’t take risks, you don’t grow. You become complacent and unhappy. So don’t. Don’t settle. Learn to love life again, by taking the steps to love yourself.

I have two mottoes (that really is the plural of ‘motto’, I swear!) now.

The first is “I can.”

I can do it. I can step out of my comfort zone and try new things. I can speak to people I’ve never spoken to before. I can start a new business, while maintaining the professional life I’ve already established. I can juggle… well, I can’t juggle literally, but figuratively I’m the best juggler out there. I can be a loving wife and mother. I can sing and dance when no one is watching, and maybe sometimes when they are… I can do whatever I want.

I can.

The second motto is “Get over it.”

Mistakes happen. If you take risks, you might find that more mistakes happen than if you just sat back and watched life pass. If you dwell on the mistake, you’re bound to make another. So don’t dwell. Learn from it and move on. Get over it.

This one is difficult for me. I dwell. For long periods of time, I think about what I did wrong and how I could have done it differently. This helps no one. It’s upsetting and heartbreaking sometimes. I can’t change the past, but I can learn from it. I just need to remind myself…

Get over it.

For me, these two phrases are life-changing. They’re empowering. They push all the negativity out and open the world to endless possibilities.

There is no limit to what we can achieve, we just need to believe in ourselves.

There’s my motivational message for the week!

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  1. Love, love, LOVE this post – such a great and powerful message, and great to see you share that it’s okay to fail. After all, how do we grow at all if we don’t know where we went wrong?

    Looking forward to see where you go in 2015!

    • I thought you’d like this one, D… I channeled my inner Danny Brown for inspiration on best blog-writing practices 😉

      You’ve watched me struggle and held my hand through it all. You’ve made me realize it’s okay to fail, you just need to try. So kudos to you! x

  2. Bob LeDrew Bob LeDrew

    Could you sit on my shoulder for about an hour in the morning and another in the afternoon whispering this post in my ear? Thanks.

    • Danny Brown Danny Brown

      You smooth talker, you!

    • well then you might need physio to work out the kinks… how about i just record my voice and you can play the message whenever needed 🙂

  3. Lockie Young Lockie Young

    I missed this when it first came out, but Jax, you have said it all in this post. It’s hard to not criticize oneself, look back and wish we had made different decisions, sometimes life changing decisions. Dwelling on something you can’t change is a recipe for disaster. Get over it and move on and move up. Without change we just stagnate.

    • Danny Brown Danny Brown

      The worst feeling (I think – haven’t been there yet!) would be to be on that final deathbed and wish, “If only…”. Let’s not wait for the “if only’s” – let’s look forward to the “remember that time when?”‘s instead. 🙂

  4. Vidya Sury Vidya Sury

    Embracing failure and seeing it as an opportunity takes a lot of hard work. First we have to convince our Inner Critic to shut up and get lost. Years…nay, decades ago, I’d try to be perfect and often end up not doing the things closest to my heart. Then I learned that it was absolutely fine to fail. Sometimes, it is the best thing as it opens up our mind to new possibilities. Thanks Jaclyn. And special thanks to Danny Brown, whose newsletter featured this post. I am glad I did not miss this 😀 Happy day to you!
    I especially love your “Powered by Love and Coffee” Describes my life perfectly!

    • LOL thanks for stopping by, Vidya – it’s great to see new faces! And I could not agree more, it’s so difficult to beat that inner critic. Most of our failures lead to embarrassment, and that’s hard to put to bed. We’ll be embarrassed for a long time before we realize we’ve learned something.

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